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Green Burials

A natural, or green, burial is the act of returning the deceased’s remains as naturally as possible to the earth. To achieve this, the body must not be embalmed or cremated, but instead buried in a simple casket or shroud without a vault, in a protected green space.

Making the choice for natural burial means one is choosing a low impact burial. That is, a burial that reduces energy and resource consumption (like water), and is less toxic (i.e. no embalming). Therefore things like the carbon footprint left by the digging, mowing, trimming, and fertilizing that takes place in the cemetery, the consumption of fuel by the vehicles of family, friends and the funeral home, the energy consumption and emissions of, and from, the crematorium, as well as the waste from floral tributes and paper products, and the production of the headstone all need to be taken into consideration.  

In Canada, there are currently four natural burial sites: Royal Oak Burial Park in Victoria, British Columbia, Union Cemetery in Cobourg Ontario, Meadowvale Cemetery in Brampton Ontario, and Duffin Meadows Cemetery in Pickering, Ontario – with more in the planning stages.  

Most provinces, including Ontario, allow burials only in registered cemeteries, so starting a green burial site means creating a new cemetery or adding to an existing one. There are also municipal approval issues — a town can reject a new cemetery on a variety of grounds, be it zoning or simple lack of interest.

Embalming significantly retards the natural process of decomposition thus confronting the funeral director with a variety of toxic chemicals and introducing these very same noxious chemicals into the cemetery. Thus, embalming is not compatible with a natural cemetery. There are environmentally friendlier alternatives to embalming with formaldehyde (a known carcinogen), however these alternative chemicals still are toxic to the environment and may not be accepted in natural burial sites. 

Natural burial grounds only contain natural markers that don’t intrude on the landscape. These natural markers can include shrubs and trees, or a flat indigenous stone, which may be engraved. There are no headstones.


Common Concerns About Green Burials
Based on work by Merilynne Rush

One of the concerns around green burials include whether or not animals can dig up the body. Green burials require an 18-24 inch soil and smell barrier between the burial container or shroud and the surface of the ground. This depth of soil is more than sufficient to remove any smell that animals, much less humans, can detect.

Another concern often expressed is whether or not the deceased’s remains will contaminate the groundwater? Contamination of groundwater is the single biggest concern that people give when opposing green burial. But it’s been well documented that the rare instances of contamination from cemeteries have been caused by the materials buried with the body, and not the body itself.


As We Wait for the Creation of a Natural Burial Site in Our Area We Can:

- Choose a locally sourced, all-wood casket without metal hardware, finished in natural oil and with a natural, biodegradable interior and bedding. A biodegradable shroud inside a cardboard coffin is an alternative.

-  Ask for non-toxic, organic embalming fluid, or insist on none at all (thus limiting the period between death and burial).

- Donate our organs or body to science. However, it is good to remember that the remains are still cremated.

- Insist on not having a concrete vault or grave liner. (Note however, this may limit your choice of cemetery as most cemeteries require the use of a vault.)

- Use an indigenous rock or shrub instead of a headstone. (However, once again this may limit your choice of a cemetery and most cemeteries have stick guidelines as to the planting of shrubbery etc.)

- Discourage individual memorialization and use, instead, communal ones. For example, one stone to commemorate all those buried in the area, with only simple inscriptions.  Thus, the green burial site as a whole becomes a living memorial to the persons interred there.

- Request a donation to a land conservation organization instead of flowers.

Permanent Memorialization

Permanent memorialization means creating a dedicated place for family and friends to connect and remember you or your loved one. It allows for a consistent place of healing.

In our modern society, people aren't given enough time to grieve their losses. The pressures of work, extra-curricular sports and activities, even the simple emotional need to ‘be busy’ often bring the bereaved back into the ‘real’ world far too soon.

Many families are choosing to scatter the cremated remains of their loved one in a favorite place; the cottage, fishing stream, local park, or even in the skies above. While that may seem fitting at the time, it often means that your family does not necessarily have a consistent or accessible place to connect with the memories of the person they loved so dearly.

Having a permanent place - in a cemetery, columbarium, or cremation garden - that can be visited regularly by family and friends can be an essential part of the time following a death. It becomes a focal point of memorialization, and gives everyone a special place to go to remember, or to commemorate important occasions. It can help to make a birthday or anniversary less painful.

A permanent place to reflect becomes a way of connecting to a family's past. Visiting the resting place of grandparents or great-grandparents can provide children with an anchor to their personal history. It is a connection to the past, to love shared. It truly honours the relationship one had, and still has.

Arranging and Delegating Your Estate

The people who know and care about you will be there when needed. However, leaving them instructions and direction will definitely prove beneficial for them moving forward.

  • Designate a Power of Attorney (POA) for health care to ensure that proper information can be accessed in the event of illness or disability. Making sure you have a Living Will in place helps to guarantee that your wishes are carried out if you are unable to do so.
  • Give your Executor a copy of your Will. Banks and lawyers’ offices are not open on weekends. In addition, safety deposit boxes are often opened up during the estate settlement process, long after the funeral. Any funeral planning documents therein can be of no help to your executor.
  • Make sure your representative has a list of important account information, telephone numbers, passwords, e-mail addresses, insurance policies, investments, bank accounts, safe-deposit boxes, properties, as well as preferred law and accountant firms.

This is just the tip of the iceberg, there are many more items to be dealt with. We offer an estate planning guide completely free of charge to help you continue this planning process. Please contact us for one! We are pleased to answer any questions you may have, without obligation.

 

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