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Paulina Parish

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Paulina Gertrude was born in Hoek, Holland on September 12, 1932 to parents Marinus and Maria Johanna (vanHoeve) Dieleman. Her younger brother Abe was born in 1934 before the family immigrated by boat to Canada in 1935. The Dieleman family soon settled on a tobacco farm near Glen Meyer, outside of Aylmer. In time Paulina and Abe were joined by three younger sisters, the twins Nellie and Marie (1939) and Betty (1947). Life on the farm was busy and everyone had their jobs, including the kids. Paulina attended a local rural school before enrolling in high school at East Elgin Secondary School in Aylmer.

In 1948 the Dieleman family moved to the Port Stanley area where they had purchased a farm. Once again they produced tobacco, and Paulina made the difficult decision to forgo returning to school, to instead help her parents and family on the farm. The Dieleman’s tobacco operation often required the help of additional staff, and in the mid 1950’s hired a young man by the name of James Gordon Parish. In addition to his work, Jim took a liking to a quiet, beautiful Paulina. In time, the young couple began dating before being married in the manse of Knox Presbyterian Church in St. Thomas on September 27, 1958 by Rev. Rodney. Once married, the newlyweds rented a home nearby, remained close to the Dieleman family farm for the next year before going out on their own in 1959, growing tobacco on shares.

Life for Jim and particularly Paulina quickly changed as their family soon began to grow. Janalie was born in 1959, followed by Jim Jr. (1960), Randy (1961), Mark (1963) and Brent (1964). To say life was busy for Paulina would be an understatement as at one point she was caring for four children in diapers… imagine! In 1967 the Parish family relocated to Springfield where they owned and operated a dairy farm. Paulina always cared for the calves, as she had the perfect touch nurturing them along. In the summer months, she could also be found out in the fields raking hay. In addition to raising her young family, Paulina helped Jim where she could, and was always responsible for helping with the farm books. In 1970, Paulina took a job off the farm at a local factory, remaining there for the next three years. By 1972, the family moved to the outskirts of St. Thomas and explored a different avenue in life.

Jim was a gifted musician and by this time had his own band. Paulina soon took to music as well, learning the bass from Jim’s bandmate Neil DeGraw. Their children were also immersed in this love of music and soon followed their parent’s footsteps, beginning their own band. As the kids grew, they eventually teamed up with their parents and formed the Jim Parish Family Band. They played at a variety of events through the years including weddings, anniversaries, and community events. As they grew a name for themselves they started performing at bigger events as well, eventually performing at the CNE for ten straight days. When the kids were in high school, the summer months were spent on the road travelling through Northern Ontario performing at a variety of events. They did this yearly for three summers and even ventured into Manitoba on occasion. In 1983, the family and band headed west and spent the next two years performing as far away as Yellowknife, at a variety of bars and nightclubs. As a family, performing and travelling together for this time period, the memories made were unforgettable.

But like every situation, all good things must come to an end, and the family returned to Ontario and settled on a farm outside of Dundalk. The year was 1984. Here, Paulina and Jim worked together raising veal calves and eventually tried their hand at raising Standardbred horses. In 1988 Paulina and Jim moved farther north, with the family, and settled on a farm, on the 12th of Bentinck, outside of Elmwood. Raising Standardbreds soon led to horse racing and the Parishes remained in this industry until they retired from farming in 2016. Paulina loved spending Saturday nights at the track, spending time with family, and cheering on the horses.

As you can imagine, Paulina had minimal spare time. During downtime, she enjoyed crocheting, canning, and gardening. She and Jim also travelled a bit, spending time in Florida and Nashville through the years. It should be no big surprise that she loved country music, with Loretta Lynn and Patsy Cline being two of her favourites. Paulina also enjoyed her four-legged companions, loving and caring for many family dogs and cats throughout her life. She was also a fabulous cook and was renowned for her casseroles, especially the “Racetrack Special.” This favourite was a quick meal for those Saturday nights when they were heading to the track and was a family favourite for not only her children but the grandchildren as well. Although quiet, and a bit timid, Paulina would open up around family and friends. She never complained, no matter the circumstance, never judged people, and always took the positive view on things. These admirable traits gained Paulina much respect throughout her life.

Paulina’s faith played an important role throughout her life. As a child, she and her family attended the Christian Reformed Church in Aylmer and these Christian values remained with her for the rest of her life. She often told the kids of how she prayed for them every night and worked hard to pass these values down to her children. In January of 2015, when she suffered a severe stroke, it was Paulina’s faith again that brought peace and comfort to her and those around her. No one liked the physical limitations she was left to live with, but Paulina continued to put her best self forward and live out each day to its fullest. Sadly, she needed more care and spent some time in Lucknow, before calling Rockwood Terrace her final home in 2017. She loved the regular visits and phone calls from her family, especially Jim, her children, and grandchildren. Paulina was always interested in what was going on in their lives and catching up. Sadly, without warning, Paulina passed away suddenly on Sunday, November 8, 2020 at the age of 88.

Beloved wife of Jim of Chesley. Loving mother of Jan (Reg) Knapp of R.R. #4 Chesley, Jim Jr. (Sylvia) of Blyth, Randy (Julia) of Aylmer, Mark (Joanne) of Damascus and Brent (Aneetta) of Chesley. Cherished grandmother of Dianna, Ben, Corey (Laura), Joanne (Arlin), David (Kirsten), James (Candace), Katelyn, Brendyn (Keri-lyn), Cherise (Ben), Shaylyn and Jessalyn as well as great-grandmother of Molly, Tayson, Charles, Case, Josiah, Alissa, Nicolas, Linnaya, Levi, Macey, Axel, Rémy, Arie, Crosby, Alexis and Denver. Paulina will be dearly missed by her sisters Nellie Montgomery of Burlington, Marie Carter of Midhurst, sister-in-law Theresa Dieleman and brother-in-law Theo Afman. She was predeceased by her sister Betty Afman, brother Abe Dieleman and her parents Marinus and Maria (vanHoeve) Dieleman.

 Unfortunately, due to the pandemic, the family has decided to hold a private funeral service honouring Paulina’s life at Geneva Presbyterian Church, Chesley. Although you cannot join Paulina’s family in person, you are encouraged to view her funeral service on the Rhody Family Funeral Home website. Paulina’s funeral service will be available to view beginning Saturday evening. 

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations to Geneva Presbyterian Church, Hanover & District Hospital Foundation or the charity of your choice would be appreciated as expressions of sympathy.

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Nancy Seiler
November 24, 2020

Hi, my thoughts are with your entire family and I am sure she will continue to be with you in the people closest to her.She isn’t far away. Send you a hum rather than a song as no singing allowed during this pandemic and she will tap her feet with you in days ahead and Fly Like an Eagle. Life is a Highway and a journey of great memories. I dedicate music to your family and thoughts in days ahead. Nancy Seiler

Tammy Parish
November 24, 2020

So sorry for your loss! Thinking of all of you at this difficult time!

Uncle Phil and Aunt Lorna
November 19, 2020

our hearts and prayers go out to the wonderful Parish family , with love and hugs ..Uncle Phil and Aunt Lorna

Neil and Marilyn Degraw
November 17, 2020

Our hearts and prayers go out to the Parish family with the loss of Paulinea. It’s been a long time since we moved from Ontario but we have many great memories of playing music and social gatherings at the farm and teaching Paulina and the kids music, we’re soooo proud of the family. The Parish family is a roll model that showed the world how to live and love. You are loved.
Neil and Marilyn

JOHN BENJAMINS
November 15, 2020

Our deepest sympathy and condolences. Paulina was a wonderful example of a loving Wife, Mom, Mother in law, Grandma, Great Grandma, Aunt and Sister. Safe in the arms of Jesus. Beautiful life story filled with all the goodness of family/friends and the joy of life on earth, so amazing. Much love John and Sandra Benjamins

Stephen and Marsha Shaw
November 15, 2020

Paulina sounds like a wonderful person and had a very interesting life. She will be dearly missed by her family.

Holly & Jonathan Parish
November 15, 2020

Our deepest sympathy and condolences for the Parish, Knapp and Dieleman families. A touching tribute and beautiful ceremony. We have a lot of good memories from the different farms Aunt Paulina and Uncle Jim lived on and the music nights we were fortunate to experience. The generous feasts were always memorable.
Aunt Paulina will surely be missed by many.

Ferrier Family
November 14, 2020

Our prayers and deepest sympathy go out to Jim and the Parish and Knapp families. She was truly a lovely lady with a warm smile and kind word for everyone. We are so sorry for your loss.
– Timothy, Deidre, Devan, Patrick & Claire

Lori Gardner
November 13, 2020

Sending our deepest sympathies with love. I have so many good memories of family visits through the years. I was always struck by how hard you worked together, played together and the strong bonds between you… that gift of family is your Mom’s legacy. I know there will be difficult days ahead and praying you find comfort in your memories.

Dorothy Bell
November 13, 2020

My sincere Sympathy Jan & Reg. May your memories comfort you!

Alan & Leanna Merner
November 13, 2020

Our sympathies to the Parish family. Please keep fond memories close in your hearts

Carol / Eldon Wettlaufer
November 12, 2020

Sending our deepest condolences to Jim, Randy & Julie and the entire Parrish family on the loss of a beautiful wife. mother and grandmother. She will be truly missed. So remember the band and also were neighbors back then(still have the record). Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Love Eldon & Carol Wettlaufer and Family

Wayne and Dianne MacDonald
November 12, 2020

Sincere sympathy in the loss of Paulina. Our thoughts and prayers are with the family.

Katherine Lewis Caldwell
November 12, 2020

Heartfelt condolances for cousin Jim,family.

Dan & Wendy Schieman
November 12, 2020

Please accept our sincere sympathies for the loss of such a wonderful woman. Remembering Her from all of the family reunions At Abe and Theresa’s farm and at our farm. So glad those picnics happened making years of precious memories. Please know that you all are in our thoughts and prayers
Love Dan and Wendy. Xo

Owen & Mary Lou McCarthy
November 12, 2020

So Very Sorry for your Loss

Mary Wray (McCarthy)
November 12, 2020

So very sorry to hear of Aunt Pauline’s passing….My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time. Heaven has another Angel!

Thelma Allen
November 12, 2020

Dear Janalie & the Parish Family: I was sorry to hear that your Mom has passed away. <3 May you experience comfort and love during this time. And may the good memories come streaming in to your mind to give you a lift in this time of sadness. Blessings, Thelma Allen (Van Meppelen Schepping)

Rodger Delion
November 12, 2020

It is sad to hear of Pauline’s passing even though we know she has entered into a greater phase of her life with no pain or suffering of any kind. Those she left behind will sorrow for missing her personal touch of all that she infused into their lives. God bless you all with peace, and comfort and an assured hope of meeting Pauline again in the place Jesus has prepared.

John and Marjorie Tite
November 11, 2020

We are so sorry to hear of Paulina’s passing and want you all to feel our sympathy and accept our condolences. We will miss seeing her at upcoming church events.

Edith Fisher & family
November 11, 2020

Our Deepest Condolences

Juri and Pauline
November 11, 2020

Prayers and thoughts to all the family. Paulina was a wonderful person.

Trudy Krahn
November 11, 2020

We are sorry for the loss of your wife, mother and grandmother. We enjoyed getting to know your family through the events of shared grandchildren. We wish you strength and healing during this difficult time. Sincerely,
Mark and Trudy Krahn and extended Passchier families

Elizabeth Crandall
November 11, 2020

Many prayers sent to your family and friends.I listened their music for many years and seen many performances in the 70’s.She was a great woman and will bemissed.

Mary Hillis
November 11, 2020

My deepest sympathy to all. Oh how we enjoyed those Saturday night dances at Glanworth, outskirts of London, to the music of the Parish Family Band , when the children were young, 1970’s?

Jane Godin
November 11, 2020

Your mother was a gracious lady. Always a kindly smile and greetings of hello. She will be sadly missed. May you always keep the memories of fun, laughter, and sometimes tears in your heart.

Laurie Davis
November 11, 2020

My deepest condolences to a very Beautiful Lady I remember meeting the Family Band in the 70 falling in Love with Them and tried to follow Them everywhere They played I wish I had Their CD You were a strong Family and I will never forget listening to You RIP Pauline

Paul & Shirley Hutton
November 11, 2020

Shirley and I are thinking of you and your family. Please accept our condolence.

Sandra Hall
November 11, 2020

My heart is broken reading Paulina has passed. Jim you where a true loving and caring husband and you will miss her dearly. To all the family my sympathy, my thoughts are with you thru these coming days.

Roger n. Joan Bell
November 11, 2020

We are sorry to hear of Paulina’s passing. Our sympathies are to Jim and all the family.

Chris and Bonnie McIntosh
November 11, 2020

Know we are thinking and praying for you all.

John and Teresa deFeyter
November 11, 2020

Our thoughts and prayers for the family, may your good memories and her legacy carry you through the difficult days ahead.

Kim Parish
November 11, 2020

Thoughts and prayers to all

Clarence & Pat Poortinga (van Lingen)
November 11, 2020

Thinking of you all at this time with the loss of a dear family member.

Kathryn Dankel
November 11, 2020

Jim, Sharon and Kathryn from Rockwood send our deepest sympathy to you and Your family. We will miss seeing you coming for Visits’s.

Richard & Edith Pepper and family
November 11, 2020

Sending condolences to the entire Parish Family.

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